You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid ‘no’ muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it’s our choice. Your ‘no’ muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, ‘I don’t care if that’s what you want. I don’t want that. No.’

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""The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.""

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Compassion

"Be clear. Be authentic. Have boundaries. Check your vision. Do what matters to you. And know what you value."

- Iyanla Vanzant

Self-awareness

"I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be."

- Iyanla Vanzant

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"Comparison is an act of violence against the self."

- Iyanla Vanzant

Happiness

"One of the most important relationships we’ll have is the relationship we have with our mothers."

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"The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others."

- Hasidic Proverb

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"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."

- Oscar Wilde

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"Be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else."

- Judy Garland

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"I am a woman with thoughts and questions and sh*t to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story – I will."

- Amy Schumer

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"You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through."

- Rosalynn Carter

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