Iyanla Vanzant

""The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.""

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Be clear. Be authentic. Have boundaries. Check your vision. Do what matters to you. And know what you value."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Comparison is an act of violence against the self."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"One of the most important relationships we’ll have is the relationship we have with our mothers."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Be aware that who you are and what you have to offer can be a beacon to some lost soul."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Don't get hung up on the hard times, the challenges. Tell your story by highlighting the victories. Because it's your victories that will inspire, motivate, encourage other people to live their stories in grander ways."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"We are all here because we need each other."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The thing I always tell my audiences all the time is that I'm just two steps ahead of you on a good day. And I might be two steps behind you on a bad day."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Forgive yourself for believing that you're anything less than beautiful."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid ‘no’ muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it’s our choice. Your ‘no’ muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, ‘I don’t care if that’s what you want. I don’t want that. No.’"

- Iyanla Vanzant

"In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was 'Help me.' Sometimes a prayer was 'Thank you.' What I've discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Angels serve as gentle reminders that forgiveness is the key to freeing our souls from the chains of resentment."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The remedy for life’s broken pieces is not classes, workshops, or books. Don’t try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The remedy for life’s broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don’t try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Talk about your negative experiences with the father, with your girlfriends. Not with your children. And bite your tongue when it comes to diminishing, denying, dismissing, name-calling."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it's the place where we find the deepest heartache."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"It’s time for you to move, realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"There is a big difference between service and working for the sake of getting something. When you serve, you are not tied to the outcome. You are not invested in what people do as a result of what you do, or what people think about what you are doing. You give what you have because it makes you feel good. You give what you have because you know that the unique way in which you do what you do will make someone else feel good. In situations when your service is not rewarded by monetary or public recognition, you are not depleted or defeated. You are encouraged to take your service to a higher level. You are inspired to pour more love into your work."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. … until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"Forgive yourself for believing that you’re anything less than beautiful."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"In order to feel loved, be respected and stay connected, we humans have a tendency to lie. We lie about who we are, what we want, what we need, what we have done or will do. Perhaps ‘lie’ is too strong a word. Let me say that what we do is withhold the truth."

- Iyanla Vanzant

"In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was ‘Help me.’ Sometimes a prayer was ‘Thank you.’ What I’ve discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away."

- Iyanla Vanzant