“Another distortion characteristic of anger-generating thoughts is mind reading – you invent motives that explains to your satisfaction why the other person did what he or she did. These hypotheses are frequently erroneous because they will not describe the actual thoughts and perceptions that motivated the other person.”
"Much everyday anger results when we confuse our own personal wants with general moral codes. When you get mad at someone and you claim they are acting “unfairly,” more often than not what is really going on is that they are acting “fairly” relative to a set of standards and a frame of reference that is different from yours."
- David D. Burns
Awareness
"Inappropriate should and shouldn’t statements […] feed your anger. When you find that some people’s actions are not to your liking, you tell yourself they “shouldn’t” have done what they did, or they “should have” done something they failed to do […] When you insist on perfection from others, you will make yourself miserable."
- David D. Burns
Awareness
"You don’t have to do anything especially worthy to create or deserve self-esteem; all you have to do is turn off that critical, haranguing, inner voice."
- David D. Burns
Self-esteem
"Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life."
- David D. Burns
Learning from Mistakes
"She warned him not to be deceived by appearances, for beauty is found within."
- Beauty and the Beast
Awareness
"We should never judge someone based on their appearance."
- Beauty and the Beast
Awareness
"Beauty and ugliness are merely subjective labels. What matters is who we are inside."
- Beauty and the Beast
Awareness
"When we see beyond appearances, we discover the true essence of a person."
- Beauty and the Beast
Awareness
"Worry is a misuse of imagination."
Awareness