Kids bullied into obeying parents and teachers may resist – not because they’re ‘hard to handle’ but because they’ve been treated as a thing to be handled.

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"To take children seriously is to value them for who they are right now rather than adults-in-the-making."

- Alfie Kohn

Awareness

"I cherish the occasions when my daughter manages to do something for the first time, or does something better than she’s ever done it before. But I try to resist the knee-jerk tendency to say, ‘Good job!’ because I don’t want to dilute her joy. I want her to share her pleasure with me, not look to me for a verdict. I want her to exclaim, ‘I did it!’ (which she often does) instead of asking me uncertainly, ‘Was that good?’"

- Alfie Kohn

Motivation

"Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions."

- Alfie Kohn

Learning

"I cherish the occasions when my daughter manages to do something for the first time, or does something better than she's ever done it before. But I try to resist the knee-jerk tendency to say, 'Good job!' because I don't want to dilute her joy. I want her to share her pleasure with me, not look to me for a verdict. I want her to exclaim, 'I did it!' (which she often does) instead of asking me uncertainly, 'Was that good?"

- Alfie Kohn

Self-esteem

"The way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not following directions."

- Alfie Kohn

Education

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"Employees engage with employers and brands when they’re treated as humans worthy of respect."

- Meghan M. Biro

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"The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought and attended to my answer."

- Henry David Thoreau

Respect

"The standard you walk past is the standard you accept."

- David Hurley

Respect

"People get built different. We don’t have to figure it out. We just have to respect it."

- Princess Bubblegum

Respect

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."

- Bryant McGill

Respect