Adversity Quotes

"Life's difficulties are merely necessary roughage."

- Milton H. Erickson

"I'm just so damn tired of watching myself and every single other women tie ourselves in knots so that people will like us."

- Gloria

"We have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we're always doing it wrong."

- Gloria

"Women hate women. And men hate women. It's the only thing we all agree on."

- Sasha

""Everyone has a plan ’til they get punched in the mouth.""

- Mike Tyson

"If you’re going to hold someone down you’re going to have to hold on by the other end of the chain. You are confined by your own repression."

- Toni Morrison

"We cannot think our way out of grief. We must feel our way out of grief."

- Angie Corbett-Kuiper

"I know in my head that she has gone. The only difference is that I am getting used to the pain. It’s like discovering a great hole in the ground. To begin with, you forget it’s there and keep falling in. After a while, it’s still there, but you learn to walk ‘round it."

- Rachel Joyce

"Losing a mother doesn’t happen in a moment. It takes years to appreciate the impact of what’s gone."

- Lisa-Jo Baker

"There is something about losing a mother that is permanent and inexpressible- a wound that will never quite heal."

- Susan Wiggs

"For so many women and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, ‘Do you want kids?’ A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say ‘no’ because that's a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause."

- Gabrielle Union

"I’ve had some not happy moments with [ IVF], very traumatic moments. [Getting pregnant is] difficult as you get older. It’s not something that can just happen."

- Tyra Banks

"Infertility is this huge emotional roller coaster. If you want in your heart more than anything to have a baby, it's the hardest thing you will ever go through physically, emotionally and financially."

- Cindy Margolis

"The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence. For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend, we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful some not. Still we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only “I’m sorry for your loss.” But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?"

- Laura Bush

"If I were to start a file on things nobody tells you about until you're right in the thick of them, I might begin with miscarriages. A miscarriage is lonely, painful, and demoralizing almost on a cellular level. When you have one, you will likely mistake it for a personal failure, which it is not. Or a tragedy, which, regardless of how utterly devastating it feels in the moment, it also is not. What nobody tells you is that miscarriage happens all the time, to more women than you'd ever guess, given the relative silence around it."

- Michelle Obama

"Those were painful times, but that particular longing was only one small part of the much bigger life I have shared with Francis."

- Kim Fay

"Everybody's at war with different things. I'm at war with my own heart sometimes."

- Tupac Shakur

"Everybody's at war with different things...I'm at war with my own heart sometimes."

- Tupac Shakur

"Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim."

- Vicki Harrison

"Losing people you love affects you. It is buried inside of you and becomes this big, deep hole of ache. It doesn't magically go away, even when you stop officially mourning."

- Carrie Jones

"There is something about losing a mother that is permanent and inexpressible — a wound that will never quite heal."

- Susan Wiggs

"A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. Happy Saturday!"

"It's going to be hard, but hard does not mean impossible."

"Pain is useful"

"It’s not the goodbye that hurts, but the memories."

"It’s frustrating to watch everyone else’s dreams come true while knowing your own are slipping farther and farther away from becoming reality."

"There is nothing more disappointing than feeling ready and then looking down at a negative pregnancy test."

"It starts to hurt the most when you have to start pretending it doesn’t."

"Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know."

"I love my job, but my office is more of a hostage situation."