The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness.

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"Rather than struggling to become bigger fish, we might concentrate our energies on finding smaller ponds or smaller species to swim with, so our own size will trouble us less."

- Alain de Botton

Balance

"A ‘good job’ can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to."

- Alain de Botton

Balance

"Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason."

- Alain de Botton

Balance

"Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't – surrender to events with hope."

- Alain de Botton

Hope

"If we are not regularly deeply embarrassed by who we are, the journey to self-knowledge hasn’t begun."

- Alain de Botton

Self-awareness

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"Beauty is not about physical perfection, but about authenticity and confidence."

- Beauty and the Beast

Self-awareness

"Beauty is found in the unique qualities that make us who we are."

- Beauty and the Beast

Self-awareness

"I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific."

- Lily Tomlin

Self-awareness

"Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your own two ears."

- Laird Hamilton

Self-awareness

"True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less."

Self-awareness