Harriet Lerner

"Anger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a relationship is more important than having a self."

- Harriet Lerner

"It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while. Too often, anger propels us to take positions that we have not thought through carefully enough or that we are not really ready to take. [...] Slow down! Our anger can be a powerful vehicle for personal growth and change [even] if it does nothing more than help us recognize that we are not yet clear about something and that it is our job to keep struggling with it."

- Harriet Lerner