Erich Fromm

"Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."

- Erich Fromm

"Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’"

- Erich Fromm

"Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."

- Erich Fromm

"Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'"

- Erich Fromm

"Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you."

- Erich Fromm

"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."

- Erich Fromm

"Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love."

- Erich Fromm

"The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one's narcissism. The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is objectivity; it is the faculty to see other people and things as they are, objectively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from a picture which is formed by one's desires and fears."

- Erich Fromm

"If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism."

- Erich Fromm

"Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one “object” of love. If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. Yet, most people believe that love is constituted by the object, not by the faculty."

- Erich Fromm

"Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved." Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love." Immature love says: "I love you because I need you." Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.”"

- Erich Fromm

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence."

- Erich Fromm

"Nationalism is our form of incest, is our idolatry, is our insanity. 'Patriotism' is its cult...Just as love for one individual which excludes the love for others is not love, love for one's country which is not part of one's love for humanity is not love, but idolatrous worship."

- Erich Fromm

"Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love."

- Erich Fromm

"The mature response to the problem of existence is love."

- Erich Fromm

""Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.""

- Erich Fromm

"Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice."

- Erich Fromm

"That millions of people share the same forms of mental pathology does not make these people sane."

- Erich Fromm

"It is naively assumed that the fact that the majority of people share certain ideas and feelings proves the validity of these ideas and feelings. Nothing could be further from the truth. Consensual validation as such has no bearing on reason or mental health."

- Erich Fromm

"Modern man has transformed himself into a commodity; he experiences his life energy as an investment with which he should make the highest profit, considering his position and the situation on the personality market. He is alienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. His main aim is profitable exchange of his skills, knowledge, and of himself, his "personality package" with others who are equally intent on a fair and profitable exchange. Life has no goal except the one to move, no principle except the one of fair exchange, no satisfaction except the one to consume."

- Erich Fromm

"To hope means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, and yet not become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime."

- Erich Fromm

"As long as anyone believes that his ideal and purpose is outside him, that it is above the clouds, in the past or in the future, he will go outside himself and seek fulfillment where it cannot be found. He will look for solutions and answers at every point except where they can be found — in himself."

- Erich Fromm

"Man’s main task is to give birth to himself."

- Erich Fromm

"A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet "for sale", who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his "normal" contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity, his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves."

- Erich Fromm

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties."

- Erich Fromm

"If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being "asocial" or "irrational" in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. How many lives have been ruined by this need to "explain," which usually implies that the explanation be "understood," i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself—to his reason and his conscience—and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation."

- Erich Fromm

"Only the person who has faith in himself is able to be faithful to others."

- Erich Fromm

"Why should society feel responsible only for the education of children, and not for the education of all adults of every age?"

- Erich Fromm

"Mother’s love is bliss, is peace, it need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. If it is there, it is like a blessing; if it is not there it is as if all the beauty had gone out of life."

- Erich Fromm

"What does one person give to another? He gives of himself, of the most precious he has, he gives of his life. This does not necessarily mean that he sacrifices his life for the other—but that he gives him of that which is alive in him; he gives him of his joy, of his interest, of his understanding, of his knowledge, of his humor, of his sadness—of all expressions and manifestations of that which is alive in him. In thus giving of his life, he enriches the other person, he enhances the other's sense of aliveness by enhancing his own sense of aliveness. He does not give in order to receive; giving is in itself exquisite joy. But in giving he cannot help bringing something to life in the other person, and this which is brought to life reflects back to him."

- Erich Fromm

"One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often."

- Erich Fromm

"Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve."

- Erich Fromm

"The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers."

- Erich Fromm

"A mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."

- Erich Fromm

"Mother’s love is bliss, is peace, it need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."

- Erich Fromm

"A mother’s love is peace. It need not be earned, it cannot be lost."

- Erich Fromm

"There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as 'moral indignation,' which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue."

- Erich Fromm